2/19/2006

Alarming for a Sunday Morning

The peace of my second cup of coffee this morning was shattered. I've posted previously about how much time my son spends on his cell phone with his girlfriend. Today he shared some of the topics in discussion. I'll say this for him, he has learned from past discussions what I'll be asking and had answers ready.

He wants to fly to Indiana and stay there for two months. This is so he can take her to the prom and watch her graduate from high school. He knows he'll have to pay for the plane tickets. I asked where he would be staying. He said at her house with her parents permission. He was quick to point out they would have separate rooms. I asked about his job. He said he had already talked to his boss about it and everything is okay on that end.

Damn. Don't you just hate it when they know exactly what your arguments are going to be. The only thing I told him is to remember he still has yet to go to college and that youths sometimes make mistakes about their perceptions of love.

My son is becoming an adult and a responsible one at that. At this point I can only offer advice and caution to him. I guess that's what happens when you teach your children that they are responsible for their actions and their lives. Then you watch as they take wing and fly off into adulthood and can only hope and pray that they don't crash.

9 Comments:

Blogger Esther said...

I can only imagine how surreal it must be for you. And hard. But sounds like you did an amazing job with him. You should be (and I'm sure you are) very proud.

1:13 PM  
Anonymous seawitch said...

esther,

It's worse than I thought. He is going to be looking for a job up there and they way he said it was if he couldn't find a job, they (meaning her too) would move to the Coast. Discussions insued about the costs of living on your own and the ultimate scare tactic for a young male, have you discussed children yet?

3:26 PM  
Anonymous seawitch said...

ether,

Oh yeah, every five minutes reminding him that he needs to go to college before thinking about getting married and that she needs to go also.

3:27 PM  
Anonymous Patrick said...

You must be proud, so many kids go off the rails, it sounds to me like yours is just growing up.

5:19 PM  
Anonymous seawitch said...

patrick,

I know. He's a very good kid. I guess I should say young adult.

5:58 PM  
Blogger Emanuel Ben-Zion said...

I don't know why but from the beggining of my life I think that my goal is to have children and raise them. I want to be proud of them, and I also want to feel that they are proud for me.
Maybe beacuse I look at my Mother and see what she did for me, how she had to work until 23h to give me a home and food. When I left home she was happy for me, but evey day she thinks about me and asks me if I'm doing well. It's hard for her to let me go, but I will ever have her and know that she's there if I mess things up in the real world.

I think your son knows that too.

8:08 PM  
Anonymous seawitch said...

emanuel,

Your mother sounds like a remarkable woman and you are a son to be proud of.

My son does know that he always will have a place to come home to if he messes things up.

9:06 PM  
Blogger Norma said...

2 months? In her house? Now there's a way to put an end to the romance!

5:55 PM  
Anonymous seawitch said...

norma,

LOL That's what one of my friends said. makes me feel better.

6:13 PM  

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